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I think now I consider a question with which each of you necessarily collided every time. It sounds like " your desire to be cool in opinion of other people". I think you would like to be, for example attractive in opinion of girl/guy which you like or for example you try to be assured and purposeful in opinion of colleagues and business partners. Always when we do it we try to watch ourselves, to notice any features in ourselves which we wish to hide from others. We try (of course not all people) to take to ourselves any role in certain conditions, to impose to the interlocutor a certain ideas about ourselves.
So, being based on one psychological model, which I think is true, (model called "Transerfing" it is created by the person from Russia) all above listed incorrectly. It seems paradox, right?
We always considered that we should look correctly in opinion of other people.
Following this psychological method i can say that you should hold a Slide in your head and in this slide you are absolutely perfect guy or girl in all world, thus it is not necessary to think about your lacks. You must think about your advantages, they are exist I am assured. For example, you go on appointment with some unfamiliar girl, but you are constraining enough person. Not a problem! Try to pay her attention on your advantages, for example on your remarkable smile. The most important in this case is to really think that you have a "remarkable smile" (there can be any advantage) and not think at all that you are constraining. Believe me, 90 % of people absolutely precisely paying attention on "how they are look in your eyes" but not on "how you are" in conversation. So let her feel herself ideal girl and very charming on this appointment and show her your "smile". And you must always hold in a head this "slide" with your advantages.
This is one of success secrets I think, not only with girls.